Goodnight Nobody, Goodnight Mush

nobody1 If you asked people in the know to describe me, the list would be over represented with synonyms of “efficient”. I like to think there would be a ‘clever’ or a ‘witty’ thrown in here and there, maybe a ‘thoughtful’ or ‘insightful’, but you would almost certainly not find the word ‘sentimental’. Yet though my husband sometimes describes me as ‘without a beating heart’ when it comes to sentimentality, even I get sappy every now and again, especially when it comes to my kids.

It’s not always the expected schmaltz that triggers my maudlin mom moments–the loss of a front tooth and the gap toothed Jack-o-Lantern grin that follows, or the first time someone ‘forgets’ to hug me at the school gate. Those things squeeze my heart muscles, but I would expect them to. It’s the small moments that tap into some pool of nostalgic residue that catch me off guard.

Which is what happened the other day when I was dusting. More specifically, when I was dusting a bookcase in the bedroom my boys share. Now, it is true that in and out of weeks I have slowly weaned out the baby stuff and the board books. Sailing almost over a year (or five) I have donated or gifted the many, many books my children showed no interest in. What is left, however, is our core collection: the books we have read over and over and over again, the ones with pages that are patched together with scotch tape, the ones with cracked and broken spines and missing staples. The books we’ve loved and loved well.

Standing there, I realized those white, Ikea shelves hold the history of a decade of bedtimes. They contain a treasure map of my boys’ childhood in stories and words. Flitting my feather duster over the rows of books I acknowledged, with a sudden pang of loss, that it has been a long time since we’ve read most of them.

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There are a lot of memories of snuggles and cuddles on that shelf. There are nights and nights of drowsy eyes fluttering closed before I could reach the ending tucked in between book covers. That bookcase houses more than just books, it holds shared experiences bound together in page and word, in ink and illustration. How can I think of picking and choosing which of them to save and which of them to pack in boxes and pass along for someone else to enjoy?

In the great green room, the was a telephone, and a red balloon. And there were three little bears sitting on chairs. We would stop to count them each night 1-2-3, a finger pointing at the page. How many nights did I sit with a chubby boy-child snuggled into my lap, a soft, downy head tucked into curve of my chin, and read those lines?

There were two little kittens and a pair of mittens. Those little bodies would squirm and wriggle, cuddling impossibly close. All the books about cars and trucks and things that go, little engines and tank engines, brave engines and more. How many journeys did the Great, Big Little Red Train make, delivering my boys into sweet toddler sleep?

And a little toy house, and a young mouse. Sometimes we would read together on the sofa, or sometimes together in the ‘big bed’. Wrapped up in duvets and buffeted by pillows we marveled over the bravery of the tiny snail on the tail of the great big, gray-blue humpback whale and squealed “no, no NO! That’s my Dad!” at the end of Monkey Puzzle.  We took dozens and dozens of trips through the center of the Earth with Ms. Frizzle, and chased a constellation full of shooting stars with Thomas and Percy.

And a comb and a brush and a bowl full of mush. We giggled over Jack, Kack, Lack, Mack, Nack, Oack, Pack and Quack waddling into Boston Common and Officer Mike waving them through. We got lost in Charlie Cook’s favorite book and made room on our brooms. We roared our terrible roars and rolled our terrible eyes and gnashed our terrible teeth tucked into blankets by the dim shine of bedside lamps.

Leo3Goodnight socks and goodnight clocks. If I trip my fingers over well-loved spines I can trace back to see where your young tastes begin to diverge. There are the books about flags and tornadoes and volcanoes that my older son favored, and the Bearenstain Bears and Magic Tree House for the younger. To my eternal disappointment, neither of my boys were fans of Dr. Suess. “Try them and you may!” I’d say, but they did not like those rhyming stories in a box or on a train or in the rain. But oh how we loved the exploits of that cheeky gray pigeon and laughed when Leonardo scared the tuna salad out of Sam. “Aggle, Flaggle, Klabble!” became part of our family lexicon.

And goodnight to the old lady, whispering hush. The feather duster passes over Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and Harry Potter, books that still await my younger son, books for him to get lost in, though he will likely chose to read them on his own, as his brother did. There are Percy Jackson stories and the Wimpy Kid series. Those books have their own importance of course, but it’s not the same. The words will be read to themselves, the voices they hear will be their own, not mine.

Goodnight stars, goodnight air, goodnight noises everywhere. These books. They make me long, just a little, for those yummy, chunky bodies, those soft hands and silky hair. Milk breath and soapy skin. They make me yearn for those still little toddler tummies, full and rounded, and the sweet sweat of baby dreams.

You’ll excuse me then just a moment to mourn the end of those nights, all those nights we sailed in and out of days and across a year (or ten); those nights when eyelids would drift slowly, slowly, slowly, before fluttering down to sleep. When I would finally whisper, like Father Rabbit, “I love you all the way to the moon. And back.”

I’ll tell you a secret if you promise not to tell. I still whisper that sometimes to their sleeping bodies, lost in their loose tooth, tweenage dreams. But don’t tell my kids. Or my husband. I have a reputation to maintain.

 

 

 

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25 thoughts on “Goodnight Nobody, Goodnight Mush

    • dhonour October 21, 2014 / 9:16 pm

      sshhh….lol, I am the old lady, whispering ‘hush’

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    • dhonour October 21, 2014 / 10:01 pm

      tis true–on both accounts.

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  1. NotAPunkRocker October 21, 2014 / 10:43 pm

    I saw all M’s books the other day after he finished cleaning his room. Funny how those memories hit you so hard. We were fond of the Froggy books and “Click Clack Moo”. Over and over and over.

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    • dhonour October 22, 2014 / 1:21 pm

      We had a run on Froggy books for a while here too. And Duck for President. When you mentioned about seeing your son’s books, all I could think about was the scene in Toy Story 2 or 3 when he’s going off to college and all the boxes are packed and the room is empty. I lost it when I saw that scene—oddly enough, so did my now 10 year old.

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  2. Farrah (@Momofthreeunder) October 21, 2014 / 11:34 pm

    Hope you’ll excuse me for not reading this post in its entirety. I seem to have something in my eye.

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    • dhonour October 22, 2014 / 1:20 pm

      Allergies. Always blame the allergies 🙂

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  3. Alison October 22, 2014 / 1:07 am

    I’m listening to the splashes of my younger who’s having a bath for the first time in years (instead of a shower!). Maybe he’ll want a bedtime story too.

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    • dhonour October 22, 2014 / 1:20 pm

      Aw, I hope he did! To be honest, my 10 year old would be happy for someone to sit and read with him some nights, and my 6 year old is still quite happy to, but the books are different and it’s not the same as those soft little bodies that would fall asleep on you. Nowadays they seem like the are not much smaller than me and I’m lucky to get out of there without an elbow to the head or a knee to the stomach!

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      • Alison October 23, 2014 / 12:54 am

        Nah, nae chance. Mine are 13 & 11. And he’s reading some WWII thing so i left him to it! 🙂

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      • dhonour October 23, 2014 / 9:14 am

        Lol, yes WWII is a tough read aloud before bed ;-).

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  4. Charles October 22, 2014 / 1:46 am

    Just reading this took me back quite a few years. I feel your pain, and sometimes I mumble classic country songs, but that has nothing to do with this excellent post…

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    • dhonour October 22, 2014 / 1:18 pm

      I used to sing Patsy Cline to both my boys-does that count as classic country? Those songs send me back as well. Enough with the sap!!

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      • Charles October 22, 2014 / 4:40 pm

        Patsy Cline is CC. Yeah, guess we oughta be looking forward…

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  5. go Mama O October 22, 2014 / 7:48 pm

    We read so many of those right now! My kids never loved Good night moon, but I certainly did as a kid. I needed a minute after this post. Sniff sniff!

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  6. cherryreads October 23, 2014 / 3:32 pm

    A little sentiment is sweeter for being rare.

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    • dhonour October 25, 2014 / 11:30 am

      Very true. Sometimes even bitter-sweeter. Bitterer-sweeter? 😉

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  7. Lorem Ipsum October 23, 2014 / 4:29 pm

    I must admit you made me remember reading Dr Seuss to my son when he still took afternoon naps, along with singing him Namcy Sinatra’s Sugartown. The memory is tinged with some guilt and regret, though, because those afternoon naps were when I frantically wrote the first draft of my novel. And so I was, like, trying to hypnotize him with the rhythmic phrasing of both books and song, hoping he’d fall asleep quickly. I guess, that’s why fathers suck — or maybe just why I did/do?

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    • dhonour October 23, 2014 / 5:38 pm

      You think all parents don’t do that? (Not to write a novel, granted, but just to get some peace and quiet!) Generally I find bedtimes more relaxing than the nap times were, probably because like you, I was so invested in the nap (why won’t you sleep child??? Why??) and I guess I figured they’d eventually go to bed! They usually did. Neither of my boys liked Dr. Suess, even though I think most of the world’s problems could be solved by reading Dr. Suess stories. Despotism? Yertle the Turtle. Environmental concerns? The Lorax. But fear not. You are not alone!

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  8. Elyse October 24, 2014 / 10:38 pm

    That was beautiful. And your timing is perfect. My great niece/goddaughter is visiting this weekend. I think she’s just the right age for one of the books my (late) sister gave my son. And maybe she can help me decide if her cousin is old enough to get another one … and I can sneak-read it to her …

    While we can’t grab our own kids and force them back in time for story time, there are other willing victims!

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    • dhonour October 25, 2014 / 11:28 am

      Thanks, Elyse. It was a mopey, maudlin kind of day. I hope you got your Mom claws into your little one and that she enjoyed your story time. It must be bittersweet to have books that your sister gave to your son. I hope that you broke it out and found some joy in it.

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