You are the Architect of Your Dreams (But Your Mother Dusted Them)

Woman-Wearing-A-White-Blouse-Plaid-Skirt-Dusting-A-Bowl-With-A-Feather-Duster-In-Front-Of-A-Glass-Top-Coffee-Table-Smiling-Modern-Living-RoomIf you need a reason to call your mother on Mother’s Day this year, consider this one:

You may be the architect of your dreams, but it was your mother who dusted them.

I don’t mean the magic, fairy kind of dust that Tinkerbell sprinkles about. I mean she dusted them with synthetic ostrich plumes dyed bright pink. She kept them oiled and shiny. She took them out for a drive around the block every now and again to make sure the battery didn’t up and die.

Your mother kept your dreams clean until you were ready to pull them off the shelf.

She stayed up at night after you went to bed and reinforced your matchstick Golden Gate Bridge with super glue. She carefully transported dioramas and poster boards. She had a last-minute science fair project up her sleeve if and when the potato gun failed to shoot.

She typed that 25 page report you waited until the last-minute to finish on a manual typewriter after the electricity went out (thanks, Mom).

She cut a thousand carrot sticks the year you decided you would only eat food that was orange.tuba

She told you that you had a beautiful voice the year you tried out for choir. She correctly guessed Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star when you played discordant notes on the recorder. She applauded your un-jazzy jazz hands, found the ounce of grace in your gangly ballet recital, told you no one noticed when you flubbed your one line in the school play.

She stood at the edge of the soccer pitch in the rain. Or the sleet. Or the snow. She sat on cold, metal bleachers that aggravated her hemorrhoids just in case you threw that Hail Mary pass. From the bench.

She got out a dustpan and brush to pick up the pieces of your first broken heart and helped you puzzle piece them back together. She waited until you went to bed before she cried for you.

She drove you to dance class and waited in the car on hot, sticky seats.

She kept a hidden stash of Saltines and ginger ale for sick days. She emptied the basin when you threw up.

She tucked you in every, single night. Even if she wasn’t home to do it, she did it when she came in, when she got home, in her heart.

majorettesShe went to all your conferences, all your concerts, recitals, assemblies, open houses. She knew every teacher’s name. She knew what your best subjects were, the ones you needed help with, the ones you hated.

In 18 years she prepared close to 20,000 meals (excluding snacks and Leap years), did over 10,000 loads of laundry, inside-outed 5,000 pairs of socks. Despite this, she’ll still cook dinner and do your laundry for you whenever you come home for a visit.

She said “you’ll be great,” when you said you wanted to be a truck driver. Then a hairdresser. A journalist, an accountant, an actress, a teacher. She said, “you’ll be great,” when you confided that you were worried about being a Mom or a Dad.

And sometimes she put her own dreams on hold so that she dust yours. Because that’s what Moms do.






8 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    Not my mom!


    1. Dina Honour says:

      Oh dear. That I AM sorry about.


    1. Dina Honour says:

      I like to think so!


  2. Anonymous says:

    Moms are pretty awesome, even the ones who yell at you for not starting the dishwasher.


    1. Dina Honour says:

      Well, not starting the dishwasher is a pretty serious misdemeanor ;-). But you’re right. Moms are awesome. Even when they’re intent on ruining your life 🙂


  3. I love my mom…….and I want to smack her sometimes. She did a lot to block my dreams. I’m glad she’s now supportive.


    1. Dina Honour says:

      Yeah…sometimes Moms think they are helping when they’re really hindering. And thwarting. I’m glad your Mom came around :-).


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