It Was the Best of Times, It Was the Worst of Times…

It’s almost impossible to reflect on 2020 and not think of Dickens.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way.

Somewhere between March and now, during this plague upon our houses, I lost my sense of time and place. It has been the fastest of times, it has been the slowest of times. Hours expand and compress until I find myself diving in and out of days and over weeks and suddenly the season has changed and the light outside my very dirty windows turns a purple bruise dusk. Another weeks starts, food shopping needs to be done, dinners planned, mundane chores procrastinated.

I haven’t allowed myself the luxury of a project–hardly even a blog post let alone something longer, meatier, more substantial. Nada. Nothing. Zilch. 

Perhaps I am fearful of things changing on a dime again. After all, for a while there it really was the season of darkness. Or maybe not. Maybe I’m just lazy. But one thing I know: I have misplaced my connection to  time: best of/worst of/any other of. I would say I left it on the bus but public transport is iffy in the here and now, in the upside down.

We had everything before us, and then, suddenly–SNAP!– we had nothing before us. 

It was…weird. 


My younger son gets upset with my casual use of the phrase the other day to describe anything from yesterday to six months prior. It bothers his very literal sensibilities. 

Yet more than anything, that’s exactly where I feel like we’re residing: in the meaty heart of the other day, where the past, present, and future are equidistant, co-existing. Honestly it could be March–It was the season of darkness!. It could be November. Infuriatingly, still the season of darkness! Wait, is it November? Christmas is around the corner, another round of birthdays, shit, it’s Sunday again that means more food shopping. Half-committal becomes the norm. My attention strays. Was it last week when we were making pasta for remote science class? No, that’s not right.

Time compresses and expands. Breathing in and out like a pair of lungs.

We were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way.


And here we are–are we here? Are we there? Wherever we are there is light–Ah! The season of light!! A pinprick at the end of the tunnel. I am salivating over the idea of normal–vacations! Family! School!–I’m also struggling to remember, wait, what IS normal now? What was normal? Did we really used to kiss each other on the cheek or shake hands? Did we really jet all over the world? Did we really linger over lazy restaurant dinners and have karaoke birthday parties with shouting and sharing of glasses?

It was the age of foolishness–or possibly wisdom. Hard to tell. 

The last seven months, our lives have been distilled. Filtered through cheese cloth until only the curds of what mattered remained. We were together, we were safe. You go through the measures, take stock, you recalibrate what’s important, then double down on those things, triple down. You sift until you’re left with just the essence, some sort of lavender essential oil of life.

That was enough. It had to be enough. It’s all we had. 

Some relationships were strengthened, some waned, most nestled some place in between.  Everything existed upon waves–they crested and crashed, crested and crashed.

Six Zoom calls back to back petered into zero Zoom calls. Frantic group message chats dwindled into the occasional check in. Crest, crash. There was no middle ground. It was all! It was nothing! 

And throughout, I was distracted at every turn. Even now, writing this I am distracted. By a flash on the television screen, a noise from the other room, waiting for my husband to refill my wine glass. I can’t settle, I’m jumpy, looking under the bedcovers and peering around corners waiting for something ugly and hairy to jump out at me. Mostly it is just my own reflection in the mirror.

I don’t trust time anymore, and yet time is all I’ve got.

The irony.


At some point we made the decision to extract my mother and sister from the US. When they arrived, it all felt so….normal.

It was like taking a two week vacation to the past.

For a small chunk of time, things just seemed–well, the same as they always did. Pre-plague. A holiday to The Isle of Normalcy.

What a long, strange year it has been when the regular, the normal, seems like a vacation.

Usually we want snazzier than the mundane. We want to leave normal behind. Bring on the jazz hands and drinks with umbrellas! Now we pine for the mundane days of yore. 

We slouch toward normal, crave it, we inch toward it, dragging bedraggled selves to get there. We can see it! We can! It’s just there, over the horizon. 

What a long, strange journey it has been. 

It was the spring of despair. But. 

It is the winter of hope.


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  1. After the SC decision with the churches, I’m anticipating the brush fire spread of churches dropping restrictions in my lovely bible belt area. I’m making plans to hunker down and avoid people more than before and hoping to get out food shopping as little as possible (I think I’m good a while, but I want to keep the canned goods intact). The year has felt like a decade, each month a new year, and too damned fast at the same time.

    yes, when all is disrupted, time is a heckuva crazy thing. I’ve been struggling to get back to good habits and a working schedule, but the days blend together as much as the meh factor and before I know it my “two month recharge” has stretched to three. I’m spending the weekend working on my new schedules–more realistic ones–to start. Have a half-day must-do list, and then stretch it to a full-day once I can successfully stick to that (and re-assess how much I can really get done in the scope of half a day or more… i have a bad tendency to over-estimate my abilities, and then I get a bad headache or something and goodbye schedule).

    Be well. Eat good food. get good exercise. Change clothes even if you don’t feel like it. Make time where it used to disappear for long stretches and have it work for ya. I’ll be spending the next few months learning piano again and how to can my own food (I’m getting sick and tired of the amount of hidden sugars in everything I love, I’d rather make my own stuff).


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