Stop Telling Women to Chill Out

Dudes. I keep reading and hearing about women whose husbands or brothers or male family members or bosses or strangers are telling them to chill out. Sometimes this is thinly veiled code for “Oh My God, I am never going to have sex again.” Most of it is male cluelessness. Sometimes that cluelessness (I’m done mincing…

How To Become Radicalized in Ten Easy Steps

Step 1 The slow realization that something about you is considered not as good as, seen as less than. Even though you don’t feel less than, everything you read and see and hear, watch and listen to, screams and whispers it to your heart. Step 2 The dissonance of questioning and doubting your own experiences. Making excuses…

The Mother of All Elections

I know I’m not alone in experiencing what’s become known as “election fatigue”. I’m exhausted; head-scratching, rage-inducing, gag-me-with-a-spoon, rant-riddled exhausted. But I think I’ve finally figured out one reason why. Being a Democrat this election cycle has been like parenting a two-year old. For eighteen months the GOP has been throwing the mother of all tantrums. Over-tired toddler in…

Apology Not Accepted

Warning: Explicit language below I woke this morning to the news of (yet another) Trump scandal. Despite the nastiness he’s been spewing about women on the record for the last 18 months, it took the nastiness he said off the record ten years ago to finally get Donny to apologize. Sort of. Not only him, but…