Skirting the Issue

The foreign minister in India just made headlines for a newly published list of tourism tips. They run the gamut of normalcy, common sense mingled with observance of local custom, but with an interesting caveat for female tourists. Don’t wear skirts. After a string of high-profile rape cases in India against foreign women, (not to mention…

What It Feels Like For a Girl

If you’re a parent, if you have a daughter, go and look at her right now. Go on, I’ll wait. Maybe she is asleep, curled softly against your chest, a little bundle of pink and spice and everything nice. Maybe she’s digging in a sandbox or playing soccer, spinning in a tutu or blowing a trombone….

20 Minutes of Action

Dear boys, I do my best. As a feminist raising boys, I go out of my way to have an open and ongoing dialogue with you about differences, about gender and as you get older, about sex and consent. But I can’t change biology. And I can’t single-handedly change the world we live in and…