2020: In Which I Did All the Things and Yet Nothing at All

So in January 2020, like every other year, I bought myself a spanking new planner. A whole book of crisp, white pages just waiting to be filled in with the mundane and the exciting. Coffees and dinners and deadlines and trips! (We had a lot of travel planned for 2020). There were big birthdays and…

Hello From the Other Side

This week my kids went to school. Normally that’s not a noteworthy accomplishment. But we’re living in anything but normal times. Then on Wednesday the husband, who’s been merrily working remotely from our bedroom, went into the office. The door closed behind them and I was left with an empty house and an empty day….

Expating in the Time of Corona

Unless you’re living under a rock (superb social distancing points), navigating this virus is affecting most aspects of our lives. It’s upended economies. It’s uprooted nations, plans, and traditions. The damn virus is upskirting us all–exposing fault lines within countries, within governments, institutions, and families. I feel a bit like a menopausal monkey, swinging wildly…

19 Things I’ve Learned in 19 Years of Marriage

If heart disease is the silent killer, passive aggressiveness is the silent marriage killer. It is astonishing how much rage a toothpaste tube or coffee mug on the side of the sink can induce. There really aren’t that many hills worth dying on, choose your trenches wisely, carefully, and slowly. No one listens as much…