Stop Telling Women to Chill Out

Dudes. I keep reading and hearing about women whose husbands or brothers or male family members or bosses or strangers are telling them to chill out. Sometimes this is thinly veiled code for “Oh My God, I am never going to have sex again.” Most of it is male cluelessness. Sometimes that cluelessness (I’m done mincing…

See No Evil

The other day I read an account of a Professor stopped for questioning by the police. By the time I’d finished reading his account, I was weeping–out of frustration, helplessness, but mostly out of plain sorrow. The kind of exhausted sorrow that sits on your chest like a hippopotamus with nowhere to go. I’m all out…

Dear Angry White Guys

Let me start by saying I know a hell of a lot of white men across the board who do right every day, men who don’t just give equality lip-service, but show it in the way they live their lives. This message is not for them. This is for the angry, white men. I am so freaking tired…

The Problem We All Live With

Growing up in the United States, there are certain bold-face names you immediately associate with American history. They are the names that are instantly recognizable to every school child: George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, Betsy Ross, Martin Luther King, Jr., Rosa Parks. There are other names that may jangle a bell in your memory,…